Let’s talk about dealing with resistance

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Let's talk about dealing with resistance

In the entrepreneurship space, the topic of resistance comes up again and again.

In this episode of Be the change, I’m joined by psychotherapist and leadership developer Rebecca Ching, to talk about blocks, resistance and self-sabotage and how the best way is not always to power through.

Be the change is a mini-series here on The Simply Smart Business Show where I get down to it with leaders in the online business world to talk about the problems facing our industry today and (most importantly) how we can create the changes we want to see.

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Takeaways from this show:

  • It feels practical and efficient to suck it up and push through, but that approach is not sustainable. It can do more harm than good.
  • When you’re struggling with something, you’ll often hear people say things like “oh, you just have blocks”, or “you just need to let it go”. That creates a lot shame and pressure. It’s not about treating everything with kid gloves, or making excuses, it’s just about understanding your nervous system and feelings, and showing them a gentle respect.
  • We need to take a paced approach to resistance – those who push through may see a euphoric high, but ultimately they’ll crash emotionally, relationally and physically.
  • Resistance is part of the gig. If you care about something (at all) you’re vulnerable.
  • So many leaders feel shame because they”re struggling and that impacts their confidence and self-belief. People numb out, shrink, hide… and this all impacts how they connect, their physical health and also the financial wellbeing of their business.
  • We have to get comfortable sitting with others’ resistance as well as our own. That requires a lot of empathy and self-compassion.

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More on Rebecca here:

Rebecca helps established leaders, entrepreneurs and business owners navigate the curveballs of life + leadership without sacrificing their health, important relationships and their business bottom line.

She believes these curveballs are what challenge our confidence, clarity, and courage and understands what helps leaders achieve their current success usually does not help them move to their next level of growth. Leaders seek her out to help them identify the blind spots of recurring struggles and develop the inner bandwidth to tolerate the vulnerability of growth during this season of life and work.Integrated Leadership™ is the work Rebecca has honed to take leaders and entrepreneurs through so that they can have greater impact and legacy by navigating the intersection of mindset + mental health via her Integrated Leadership™ Coaching – based on systems theory, trauma-informed practices, the research of Brené Brown, PhD  and Internal Family Systems.

She is the CEO and founder of Potentia Family Therapy, Inc. – which is a brick and mortar integrated mental health practice based in San Diego, California and is a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator + Consultant and Certified Internal Family Systems Therapist.  

Rebecca has also started Rebecca Ching Leadership Coaching and Consulting where she develops leaders through coaching and workshop experiences.

She lives in San Diego, CA with her husband and their two children where they enjoy cooking, going to farmers markets, all things cooking, ocean and outdoor sports.

Visit Rebecca’s website here.

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