Redefining Resistance with Rebecca Ching Part Two

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Redefining Resistance Part 2 with Rebecca Ching

Welcome to the second episode in my 3-part Redefining Resistance mini-series on The Simply Smart Business Show, where we are going deep into that painful, uncomfortable, and horrible area of resistance that we often find ourselves in.

In episode one we explored how to identify resistance when it shows up as procrastination, perfectionism, self-doubt or fear. In part two of this vital conversation with Leadership Coach, Rebecca Ching, we talk about how to rumble with resistance, identifying trailheads, and becoming self-led rather than resistance-led.

What to expect on the Redefining Resistance mini-series:

Episode #1: How to identify resistance

Episode #2: The rumble with resistance

Episode #3: Releasing from resistance

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Takeaways from this show:

  • Living a brave and bold life means our beautiful, powerful, altruistic though often annoying system that tries to protect us IS going to jump in.
  • Nervous system 101: If you’re going to expand your business, reach, visibility, or on a personal level, dare to fall in love, start a family, or make a big move, your internal protectors will come online in the form of resistance.
  • Doubt is inevitable: start to anticipate it and build relationships with those protectors.
  • Expect resistance as a part of the gig of leading, growing, and expanding versus a sign of failure, weakness, or some flaw.
  • When it comes to befriending the parts of you that seem to be holding you back, or costing you time and money or peace, slow is better.
  • Brené Brown’s book Rising Strong talks about the reckoning, the rumble, and the revolution.
  • Rumbling with resistance starts with noticing what’s coming up and getting curious about it. Often it’s messy and ungraceful and takes more than an hour of journaling.
  • Rebecca chooses the term ‘trailheads’ over triggers to signify something that elicits a big reaction such as anger or shame. A trailhead is the path to what’s really going on.
  • Instead of looking at who instigated the trailhead, do the Y-O-U turn and look at what you feel, where you feel it in your body. Be a witness to what’s happening and get to know what the job, fears, concerns, and beliefs of your response are telling you.
  • If someone triggers you or oversteps a boundary, by rumbling with what’s going on inside you first, you can still tell that person what is and isn’t acceptable, but it now comes from a place of integration, not lashing out.
  • We can live in a way where we are protector-led and resistance-led, or where we are self-led – and this involves getting used to the rumble so we don’t offload our pain onto others.
  • Trying to get rid of your protectors or exile shame and despair only does more harm.
  • Rumbling with resistance is layered and nuanced, and it can again go down a really complicated, a complex path because we are complex beings.

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