Let’s talk about the online popularity contest

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Let's talk about the online popularity contest

We all like to feel like we belong. We want to find a space where we feel safe and understood. Sometimes, when we’re looking for those feelings in entrepreneurship we can end up stuck in unworthiness.

Connection and interaction are important, but there’s a flipside to that too, and we see it all too often. A search for belonging can ultimately lead us to rejection and bullying.

In this episode of Be the change, I’m talking to Shari Teigman about the popularity contest in the online space and what we’re going to do about it.

Be the change is a mini-series here on The Simply Smart Business Show where I get down to it with leaders in the online business world to talk about the problems facing our industry today and (most importantly) how we can create the changes we want to see.

Listen to this episode here.

Takeaways from this show:

  • No matter where we start out in our careers, we look for where we belong. It’s a safety valve, which then gets rewarded by society with promotion (or not, if you don’t play by the rules). This is damaging! None of us like to admit that it affects who we want to be, but it does!
  • We all want to be liked. And we fall into this no matter how long we’ve been in the online space. Again, it isn’t necessarily about popularity, it’s about safety. You’ve got this two-pronged monster of the unknown of working from home and loneliness – especially if you’re surrounded by loved ones who don’t get it.
  • We’re in No Man’s Land, and nobody wants to stay there, no matter how adventurous we pretend our souls are. I like to know what’s coming into my bank account. I like to know who likes me. I like to know how to find more of those people. That’s called a marketing plan.
  • When you start walking and talking and dressing and smelling like everyone who is 3 steps ahead of you, you lose your individuality… but you don’t feel alone.
  • Being in the in-crowd can feel like a fast track. You don’t need to work on your skill, you just need to be surrounded by the right people who then associate you with the right people.
  • There’s a difference between collaborating and riding someone’s coattails.
  • Slow and intentional is the best option when it comes to your own growth.

Listen to this episode here.

More on Shari here:

Shari is a mindset coach and creative business strategist. Shari helps the non-Average Joes and Janes ditch their Groundhog Day living and find their unique path and voice to live a Maverick unleashed life in all areas.

Shari also works with entrepreneurs who are feeling stuck and unfulfilled in their work, to find the unique blend of motivation, creative strategy and POP instead of a I-really-hate-my-job and/or-my-life type of deal.

She believes that with the right sherpa, every person has the potential to uncover and rediscover who they once were before they lost their individuality and how to respark themselves into full technicolor success.

Visit Shari’s website here.

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